Having a successful date does not happen by itself and it is something you need to work at. If a date is to lead on to other things, a woman has to put in even more effort than a man, although in less obvious ways and here are a few dating tips for women to enable you to help a date go the way you want it to. The first thing to remember is that everyone has baggage and letting your unhappy past dating experiences affect your mood and attitude on your current date will drive the man away – the past is not his fault. And even if the past does not affect your mood, do not let yourself speak badly about your exes – no man wants to hear about what losers men are and your current date will also wonder if he will be spoken of in the same way if things do not work out, even if it’s not his fault.
Men have set ideas about what is romantic and what isn’t so be careful about talking about your problems; no man wants to hear about why garbage collects in your street or how you cure your pimples – that is not how to create a romantic image of yourself. While being open and honest is a good thing, there is a time and place for it and the first few dates are not the time to start confessing your personal flaws and irritating character traits – there will be time enough for this as the relationship develops. Be careful of how much you drink – getting drunk is a big turn off for the guys, unless his intensions are less than “honorable.” Also, if you get smashed, how will you know how he behaved and whether he is right for you and even worse, will you remember everything that you did on your date – you may have set things going on a path that you don’t want and could find yourself trapped.
You don’t have to fill up every pause in the conversation with chatter – natural gaps in the conversation can be a time to observe body language and notice the small things you overlooked before and it can also be a time for a sexy meeting of the eyes. A woman can make to first move towards getting a date, but after you ask the guy out, do not let him feel he is being chased – guys fear not being in control and that affects their image of themselves and their idea of being macho.
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